Musings Part II: Revising the Rant

by xparavox

When something disturbs me online, I sometimes open up a word file and just write. Be that as it may, putting forth polished and edited venting may be an exercise in refined catharsis, but it doesn’t necessarily make for insightful reading. Instead of the fine verbal sheen and smooth linguistic flow that comes from coherent editing, polished venting can result in not much more than tiresome dribble.

I speak for my own dribbling tendencies. They tend to hit when I get affected by the prevailing winds of politically correct guilt tripping and wimp out not wanting to piss people off.

This second instalment of the topic at hand, therefore, is an attempt to re-muse the former musing, now that some weeks or so have passed and the mental pipes have all been vented. Unfortunately, circumstances are not so kind as to encourage the mental pipes stay vented. More encounters, more frustration; so be it.

I want to blame it all on the “establishment”, but the latter as a controlling minority with hoarded resources and extended experience in the art and science of psychopathic manipulation still cannot get away with all that goes on without the participation of you, me and the rest of the proverbial majority of online humanity. I speak specifically of internet oriented behavior manipulation.

The bait is the sense of power every “little person” feels in sounding out where they stand, be it complaining, pontificating or simply socializing. We all have reason to complain, and opinions are like assholes- and I mean no disrespect to the aforementioned body part. Socializing, furthermore is a basic human desire if not need.

Expressing as such is healthy, so long as we consider the golden rule (do unto others as you would have them do unto you) and its reflection or inverse (treat yourself as you would treat others). These two sides of the golden rule, however, are counterproductive if we seek to harm ourselves.

In any case, many worship, admire and most likely envy celebrities these days. Many, furthermore, would love to be a celebrity, and I can’t blame them given the promoted images. The bait then is promoted self-importance, and sometimes monetary gain under the guise of “teaching people what’s right”. From there it can escalate to the sadistic pleasure of acting as judge and jury, if not executioner- at least in the physical sense.

This is where I urge myself caution in plenty. Each of us can be found to be perpetrators of that which we condemn, as far as online communication is concerned. The irony is that those who slip through the cracks of the witch hunt are often the most manipulative and psychopathically inclined; but that need not be taken as a rule either. Nothing can, but oh do we wish it were that easy (or at least I find myself wishing like that on occasion before I slap myself awake). How can we then apply discretion and be discerning in such a contrary venue? Here are some suggestions:

1) Insistent- but not brutal- honesty in viewing the reflection of the world in yourself, as well as the reflection of yourself in the world.

This includes the basic honesty regarding one’s motives, sense of purpose and feelings regarding others. If there is any time we are served to evaluate a situation from a position free of condemnation (normally know as being judgmental), it is where we ourselves are involved.

If we are sincere, if we are not running a scam or seeking to crush others and dominate even if psychologically, we can remember that it suffices that we know. The problem with a correctness mentality is that it is a hop skip and a jump from a witch hunt mentality, which itself two fingers away from a holocaust mindset, and I am not speaking of any specific historic uses of that word. Holocaust simply means burning everything to the ground, for whatever reason. Those who would desire such thing can get those with an exacerbated inferiority complex to do their dirty work and face any consequences if they are outed. It all starts with pushing guilt.

2) Be aware of your responses in applying (1).

Honesty is not painful, but it can reveal pain. When honesty itself is painful then it isn’t honesty, it is punishment. Taking responsibility for one’s pain does not mean creating more pain on top of it. Atoning is not a spectacle to satisfy others, neither is it groveling in front of the self-proclaimed righteous. It is meant to be a healing, which is meant to move from the stage of pain to the stage of soothing reconstitution.

3) Concern is primarily best turned on one’s self.

In other words, don’t worry about what others are doing or how they are doing it, unless you are done worry about yourself as thoroughly as it takes to move to do something about it, even if that involves “inner work” and not much in the way other’s see you. Guilt as a dominant meme we inflict or allow inflicted upon ourselves is malignant and toxic.

If you experience compassion for your circumstance and state of being, you need not accept guilt from a misplaced sense of fairness. If you are forgiving to yourself then you will be more understanding regarding guilt tripping others.

I am not giving original advice. It isn’t even “new age” advice. In this blogger’s honest opinion, it is the kind of sense that describes someone who is pragmatic where their inner world or experience of self is concerned. All too many are taken for a ride to embrace self-denial in subtle and overt ways, and to degrees that vary from mild to being extreme, if not lethal in their ramifications.

As far as I’m concerned coming to terms with one’s own set of personal values and qualifications of meaning, knowing oneself, being mindful and self-aware, even self-centered establishes a grounded stance that empower’s one to be free of manipulative guilt- without turning into the boogey man psychopath that has turned into what everyone loves to hate these days.

Psychological abuse is not uncommon. Insuring one is capable of avoiding or even reversing one’s victimization is one of the most practical things one can do in the information age, where online presence has more impact than ever. Riding the high of self-righteousness, however, is a conscious act because one needs to affirm the superiority of their stance all the time. If we fall into the trap of seeing manipulation everywhere and take the bait to see the devil behind every corner, then it is we who might be a witch-hunter or inquisitor in the making.